You ask them how they are ‘you know the same just frustrated.' I just sit around. I posted about this earlier but my FIL is complaining about being at assisted living and how everyone there is old. He is just all depressed and then today he is saying how wonderful it is. So as my other post was about how I was worried about depression What do you all do when you really don’t know how they feel? I probably should have added this to my last question. I just don’t know and then someone said what about a therapist. He is not even going to remember talking to someone. Is this more of the brain damage declining or is it dementia. I hope this isn’t a stupid question, I have never been around anyone with dementia or Alzheimer’s. Again sorry if this sounds stupid.
The wheelchair brigade is scary. To them. To you. They see their future. You see it too. No wonder it is depressing.
Best of luck!
Think of a teenager. They are so excited one minute and then something happens and it’s the end of the world. Nothing much has really changed its just that their emotions are doing a number on them.
Give him a hug and try to change the subject on the blue days. If it doesn’t work, check the things you usually do when you are visiting and tell him you will see him on the next visit.
Choose to spend more time on happier days.
You have little control over his moods but total control on how you let others affect yours.
Remember that it sometimes helps to have a place to vent and that may be what he’s doing with you. You’ll have to decide if you can give him five or ten minutes to get it all out and then move on.
So just have a plan before going in to see him so you don’t leave feeling bad. I always tried to make my mom smile if she was down. That was my reward. And I was always glad I made the effort but I wasn’t always successful.
Big Hugs.