My mother whines when she talks to me. "c.a.n.y.o.u. g..i..v..e..m.e.m.y s.y.m..b..i..c..o.r..t?" Very annoying. I tell her to please stop whining & ask me in a mature voice. Is this something I'm expecting of her but she's not able to do. I listen to her talking to her sisters & friends & her voice immediately changes to a normal conversation w/an incredible memory. Not bad for 97..HOW can I deal w/her whining? Is she just doing it to me?
Sounds like several of you are saying that. Very good idea. Not easily done, but a goal worth striving for. ;)
And perhaps it has nothing at all to do with you.
Your attachment to her speaking in a certain way may be making life unnecessarily unpleasant for both of you. As 'Zonlangirl' commented above, it's best to focus on what is being said and what is needed rather than the tone of voice.
With consistent effort, we can train ourselves to stop reacting to these annoyances. If you can, find something to be thankful for and switch the negative thought to one of gratitude. This perspective helps us remain emotionally neutral with annoying people.
Keep a smile on your face and a lilt to your voice and compassionately detach from your mother and the buttons she knows all too well how to push. Blessings and good luck to you both.
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