I'm not planning on anything happening but I would like to be proactive in the event that I am somehow unable to act as POA for my Parents. Basically, I want someone to be able to make decisions about my Parents care and pay the NH if I can't. Can I delegate POA to my Husband or next reliable family member?
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Can you explain this a little more,gimmeshelter?
As POA you should be able to delegate their care, whether at home or in a facility, but cannot assign the POA to someone else.
Instructions in the document itself is the only way to change POA is attorney will not do it. There may be reasons your folks selected you and not your brother that you are not aware of.
Call the attorney that prepared the trust to ask if there is a way to change them. That attorney may know the why's as far as designating you.