I can't tell if my mom has true dementia or not. Dr says it's mild but she's 87 yo. The catscan just showed microscopic changes. Sometimes she remembers things from a few days ago or many years ago. Sometimes she flat lies as we are watching her without her knowledge. Sometimes she really doesn’t know. Thing is her pride & meanness. How do yall handle this day in and day out?
Help. Need practical advice.
Why is it that you don't believe that?
During my caregiving days, I researched how to manage my resentment and stress. Being compassionate was the answer. It wasn't ever easy, and it was something I had to consciously work on over and over.
Are there alternative care options, any plans, for when your mother becomes too much for you to care for safely in your home? Safety isn't just about physical care. You have to care for yourself and your sig other, too.
Scans can show TIA/stroke damage which can lead to Vascular Dementia but frustratingly will not show other types of dementia, or the most common type - Alzheimer's Disease.
At the early stages, when folk ARE aware they don't remember something, or how to do something anger is common. It's a cover-up tactic.
Lies, or 'confabulations' are another cover-up tactic.
Didn't remember today was that Dr appointment? "YOU never told me".
Don't remember where I put my purse? "Someone stole it!".
Have you read the book The 36 Hour Day?
How other people cope I don't know but adding more help as time goes by becomes necessary eg in-home help & adult day-care.
Welcome.