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My dad is in a home and doing just okay. He is a very prideful man and some of his old time friends want to visit him. Will this be good for him or will it embarrass him? I am so concerned about his dignity and such.
Ali, I've learned since looking out for my mother-in-law, to live in the moment. There are times that her family is apt to exclude her from things because they know she'll never remember them, and they think 'why bother?'. But I also know that she loves whatever it is, for the moment. The next day she'll swear up and down that she NEVER went to her grandson's wedding reception. And that was exactly what some family said would happen (duh) but I feel like I have to 'have her back' so to speak. I feel like I'm the one looking out for her interests when it comes to including her in activities that I KNOW she'd love, if she had her brain again. Make sure you take pictures of your dad and his friends together when they visit though. He'll not remember, so to have the reminder that his buddies still care, is most important.
Oh... this question breaks my heart. Of course they should come. They should be "filled in" on his current state of mind. They should tell him what they appreciate about him. You may see him become who he used to be. Bring on the visitors. Just one at a time.
He said yes. Let the visitors come. I think that if he is so confused he can't understand that question then he is probably not with it enough for him to be concerned about his dignity. And if he does understand the question, then his answer should be respected.
I agree w/NancyH. My Aunt is 95 & she has senile dementia & has no short-term memory from almost minute to minute, but I sitll look at it that she will be happy in the moment so I don't look at the fact that she will forget. I think somewhere in her brain... somewhere in there.... she will have some inward "knowing" (even if she can't remember the specific event or thing we did) that we love and care about her. I think that in the moment your Dad may enjoy his friends coming.
My husband was told by a Dr. that he had dementia about 2 years ago. I knew as much as 5 0r 7 years before that something was wrong. He does not want to go back to a Dr. I have not pushed him. I'm his self-appointed care taker. I'm 84 he is 80. Sometimes things get scary to me. Am I doing the right thing. He is not mean or hard to handle but he does not want to bath and wont eat when its time to eat then is hungry 10 minutes later. Many events too much to name. Friends and other don't seem to think there is much wrong but they see him for 30 minutes at the most. He always acts good around people. Is it me that needs help?
Whatever makes him happy, do it, they live in the moment. If my Mom has too many visitors she acts like she in a fog and unresponsive for days to a week. I limited the visitors and she is okay now. Its kind of like a Holiday when too much is too much and you see them decline for days and return to themselves again. Play it by ear, see how he is afterwards. He key is "Happiness."
I too think it depends on the person and the situation. My husband is pretty far along in dementia, so I was going to plan just a small birthday party for him, but when I asked, he wanted lots of people. So we had about 15-20, and he seemed to enjoy himself. Granted, he talked to some of them about some wacky "plot" to earn millions (which his son said was the story of a Nicholas Cage movie!), but it was quite revealing to a few relatives about what I'm going through, and it didn't bother him a hoot that they looked at him a bit oddly at times. Only problem is, if he has company he can be more out of it that night, so we've taken to having gatherings at lunch time so he has time to wind down. All you can do is try -have a couple people over, warn them what to expect, and see how it goes.
I agree, as I mentioned but am curious why you say one at a time? I also agree with that, but the siblings get furious when I limit them to a few at a time. As I said, whatever makes them happy is good! lol !
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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As I said, whatever makes them happy is good! lol !
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