My father has early stage of dementia and he pees on the floor in the mornings,should I hold him responsible and have him clean it up. he swears he didn't do it,and is argumentive, I don't have a problem cleaning it up but my husband said he is more than capable to do it himself. he is independent as far as dressing and cleaning himself,physcally he is fine, just the memory problem.what you guess think
Do you know why he pees on the floor? Does he have an urgent need to go in the morning and he can't wait? Would a bedside commode solve that problem? Then it could be his job to empty the commode pot.
I don't think they should have to clean this as most of the time they don't know and usually are in denial. And as said above, she would forget to wash her hands - so all in all it was just easier for me to do it. It is not easy.
It's just my personal predilection, but I wouldn't ask him to clean it up. It's hard for old folks to get down there, rather demeaning and it feels like punishment if they don't recall doing it, even if you didn't mean it that way. I'd just look for another way around it.
Get him to a urologist to determine if there's a problem that can be fixed. If not, invest heavily in Depends. Because things probably aren't going to get better along those lines.
Now, if I could just get him to wipe his butt correctly, I'd be a happy little caregiver! LoL
Good Luck :)