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My 89 yr old mother who suffers from mild/moderate Dementia fell and broke hip, was placed in a NH to recover. When she recovers from the injury, shouldn't she be continue to qualify to remain in the NH due to Dementia alone? She was unable to prepare her own food, bathe independently, manage her own meds, stay hydrated at home, and has wandered away from home in confusion, although didn't get far enough to have a catastrophe. Shouldn't Medicaid/Medical Assistance pay so that she remains in the NH? Another issue that has come up is that she may have the foley cath permanently now. She has no savings/assets and lives from Social Security check to SS check. Anyone know about a situation like this?

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You did not say what state you were in. I am in Tennessee and my Mother lives with us and is on the waiver program. I have someone coming daily to bath and feed her and sit with her if I need to go out. You did say she was still in Rehab. for her broken hip, There is a social worker there that you need to speak with and they can help you with everything.It sounds like she truly needs to be in a nursing home. You need to check out all the nursing homes in your area and see what their ratings are, you can do this on the internet, but the social worker can help you get her in a medicade funded facility. But you will have to check the rating yourself. to make sure it is a fit place for your mother. And a little trick about a loved one being in a nursing home is , if they know that someone comes and visit regularly, they are more apt to be on top of your mothers care
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State: Pennsylvania
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Hi: Yes, your mother definitely sounds like she should qualify for Medicaid. The nursing home should be able to help you get the papers from the state and fill them out, or you can contact the state directly. I have listed all the state contacts for the 50 states here: MedicaidSecrets.com/updates. Good luck!
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Follow-up: The Social Worker at the NH told me today that my Mom is ready to be discharged from the facility. She said that there is no need to apply for Medicaid because she is no longer eligible to stay in the facility now that her physical therapy will be ending (she is walking with a walker however balance remains an issue). She has had the foley cath removed this past weekend. The dementia issues are not even part of the picture. I do not understand this at all. So she is not eligible to stay in a nursing home, yet the social worker also told me that she needs to be supervised around the clock. Is there anyone who can shed some light on this? Anyone with a similar situation?
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I hope you get some good advice. My mother is in a similar situation and I'm beginning to look for solutions.
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In most states it is possible to receive Medicaid assistance even if living at home or in an assisted living facility, under the "Home and Community Based Services" program. You should check with the Medicaid department in your state (contact list available here: www.MedicaidSecrets.com/updates).

Since your mother needs round-the-clock care, I'm surprised she won't qualify for Medicaid. So you need to verify what the nursing home is telling you!
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You have to take a stand and tell them that you cannot take care of her and that there is no one who can. She has no money or assets. You are not legallly responsible for her, I know that sounds harsh, but it is true. I am dealing with my father who has dementia, so I do know a little about the process.
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Once, you apply for Medicaid there will be a pending status and that is all that the NH needs. What ever you do, do not take her out of the nursing home it will be then become your problem to find a place.
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I'd like to hear from the previous folks about dementia and medical assistance.
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My family lives in northern Virginia. My 93-year-old mother has advanced dementia/Alzheimer's and is in a residential facility where because her need for care keeps increasing the costs keep increasing. She has a small social security payment and a small state retirement which together total almost $1600. We have been making up the difference now over $5000/month. I know we can look for a less expensive facility, but do not want to move her more than needed. Is there anyway to see if she would qualify for assistance?
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In order to qualify for Medicaid, your mother would have to have "countable" assets in excess of $2,000. If she can qualify, then your mother would still pay her Social Security and pension to the nursing home, but the Medicaid program would pay the nursing home the balance of the bill for your mother's care.
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That's true, Medicaid will try to stave you off for as long as possible but if you take your loved one to the nearest emergency room and leave her there, which sounds awful I know, they will HAVE to place her. Sometimes homeless people get better care than middle class because there is no family to fall back on. If you take her to the ER and leave (you must leave or they will try to talk you into taking her home with you) the medical facility will not discharge her because they can't safely do that, so they will get their social worker to place her. Sometimes they have to go to a mental facility first if there are no nursing home beds but that is just temporary. Good luck. Going through the same thing with my mom and already been through it with my father-in-law.
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hi im taking care of my husband who is 65 yrs of age since 2010 he has progressive aphasia and has gotten much worst in last year I feel exhausted and hes affecting my health and sleep im his caregiver 24/7 what should I do live in long island n.y. can I get any help ??
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In our state, NC, a physician must complete and sign a form. It lists the issues of the patient, what they can't do, their physical and mental condition, their needs, etc. Based on that, the facility may admit them. So basically, the doctor certifies what the patient needs.
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If you have been asking about discharge, they may assume you want to take her home. Many families do. You need to refuse to take her out of there and force them to keep her.
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yes she would def get in start putting her on a list where u would want her to go hope u find a good nursing home for her.
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i just moved to nc my dad had dementia I cant control his complaining and threetning to leave. can I put him in a nurcing home till his medicade goes through ? he only has medicare has of now and income from ss and disability.
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It must depend on the state. In NC I was told they have about 3 days to give you an answer, assuming they have all the required information and assessment form signed by the doctor.
I think there are a lot of people in similar situations. I would discuss it a social worker and even the director of the facility she is in. They know the rules and how they work. They can keep the resident and get reimbursed when the funds come through.
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We have IHSS here in CA. Depending on income the elder may or may not have a copy. They determine how many hours of care is needed by doctors reports. They do not however do 24 hrs. care. There are also programs in our Bay Area that offer live-in care for trade of room & board. They have to go thru a screening process & are partnered with the elder. The live-in is also an elder in need of companionship so that's a plus!! We are considering this for my mother in law. This allows her to remain in her home. She was just diagnosed with mild dementia after a stroke in February. She is 81 and begs to stay in her home. This way she gets meals, baths, shops with a companion and has live in company. We'll see. She lives on SS only too.
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My husband was diagnosed w/mild dementia TBI. I was dx w/recurrent primary peritoneal carcinoma w/3 surgeries. He is able to walk most times, does fall, can;t do meds.We only have Soc Sec & it is getting to point I am not physically able to take care.Long term memory ok. How to place him w/o his conset. Not POA or no Medicaid. Where to start-promised would always keep hiim home but my condition as seriously changed
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