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Sit down with your siblings (not by phone if you can help it) and give your side of the story. Also, make sure your siblings understand her disease and the behaviors associated with the disease including hallucinations, paranoia, misunderstanding, etc.
Mom can get very confused between the real and unreal. They can get confused with what they hear on TV, from another resident, etc. and get that confused with what is going on with their children, neighbors, etc.
My mom does this. She has accused my brother (retired and living across the country) of being a "convicted felon" who stole $10K in dollar bills from her safety deposit back. She swore he was seen in her garage, at the bank, etc. -- all impossible but she is fixated on this even after 2 yrs. He told her he bought a car and in her mind, he couldn't afford one (he's actually retired and well off). She has accused elderly neighbors of "terrorist activity" against her and driving their car into her front yard tree (a branch long having fallen off and leaving an age old scar on the tree) that she just discovered...me, her only daughter and the only one with contact with her, well, i've stolen from her, my husband has abused her, etc., etc.
I used to get very angry; and now I just document for my own protection when she makes such accusations and I make sure I have regular communication with my sibling. I also have done alot of reading and educating myself and hear same from others so I don't feel alone in those.
If your sibs believe her over you, then there isn't any trust and not much you can do about that but let it go.
When your mom is "most coherent" you can tell her calmly, that these comments hurt you and you want her to stop. You can tell her if she keeps saying these hurtful things or spread untruths to your sibs that your sibs will stop you from seeing her anymore "is that what you want, mom?"....maybe it will stop. It slowed my mom down some; but I choose to ignore and not punish her for it because its the dementia disease not really mom.
No one believes her at this point; but it still hurts and she repeats to relatives, etc.
Have you asked your sibs if they believe her? Have you asked them for proof?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Mom can get very confused between the real and unreal. They can get confused with what they hear on TV, from another resident, etc. and get that confused with what is going on with their children, neighbors, etc.
My mom does this. She has accused my brother (retired and living across the country) of being a "convicted felon" who stole $10K in dollar bills from her safety deposit back. She swore he was seen in her garage, at the bank, etc. -- all impossible but she is fixated on this even after 2 yrs. He told her he bought a car and in her mind, he couldn't afford one (he's actually retired and well off). She has accused elderly neighbors of "terrorist activity" against her and driving their car into her front yard tree (a branch long having fallen off and leaving an age old scar on the tree) that she just discovered...me, her only daughter and the only one with contact with her, well, i've stolen from her, my husband has abused her, etc., etc.
I used to get very angry; and now I just document for my own protection when she makes such accusations and I make sure I have regular communication with my sibling. I also have done alot of reading and educating myself and hear same from others so I don't feel alone in those.
If your sibs believe her over you, then there isn't any trust and not much you can do about that but let it go.
When your mom is "most coherent" you can tell her calmly, that these comments hurt you and you want her to stop. You can tell her if she keeps saying these hurtful things or spread untruths to your sibs that your sibs will stop you from seeing her anymore "is that what you want, mom?"....maybe it will stop. It slowed my mom down some; but I choose to ignore and not punish her for it because its the dementia disease not really mom.
No one believes her at this point; but it still hurts and she repeats to relatives, etc.
Have you asked your sibs if they believe her? Have you asked them for proof?