Last night AL called. My sweet little mom Was violent and tried to stab someone with a fork!!!! She fell last week, ER trip. Eye swollen like a soft ball. Still swollen. Purple.
I'm wondering if The fall could have brought on this violent behavior.
They called the doc and he is putting her on depakote.
In talked to her on phone during this episode, she was confused about where I was and where she was.
My father committed suicide almost 29 years ago. She thinks he is still alive and is cheating on her. She will argue with him (loudly) yell out words like -slut, whore,says he is fu-king 20 women. He never ever cheated on her.
Her hallucinations just started last June and I had to put her in AL memory in October for respite. Taking care of her for 8 years sucked the life out of me and left me with several chronic diseases from stress and not taking care of me. I had no help at all, family all scattered and distanced themselves from us, not wanting to help.
I lover so much and she loves me so much. I want her back! I know it won't happen. I swore to take care of her as long as I could and guilt because I couldn't do it. Guilt keeps me from visiting as I should. Also as soon as she sees me she starts in on my Dad. It brings up all my pain from suicide
Anyone know what may happen to her personality on depakote?
The AL had a senior prim last Saturday. My husbad and I went she did pretty well, except embarrassed about the black eye.
I have been on this board for 3 years, reading several times a day. I just don't ask too many questions, just learn from others posts. I could not fingpd anything helpful on depakote and violence. But now id appreciate any input on what might lay ahead. Mom will soon be 94- she is in good health. I think she may have had 3 mini strokes since June. I'm afraid they will kick her out.
Does anyone know what it could do to her. ?
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I would hope that an assisted living facility who will accept a resident with dementia would have the skills to deal with it, but I suppose that is assuming a lot. Perhaps now that she is back to her own routine in a familiar place and also taking a very small dose of a mood stabilizer she will quickly return to her former baseline and non-aggressive behavior.
Whenever my husband was hospitalized after developing dementia, I made sure that he was never without a family member in his room. The hospital experience itself is traumatizing and I wanted to minimize its impact.
I have no experience with Depakote but have heard good things about it at my caregiving group.
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