I wont say much last post didn't get much response but not blaming or mean what I just said in bad way. My mom discharged from hospice didn't agree but beside point long story ended up rehab which now do not believe candidate for that but IDk having hard time placing her due to Insurance and money for long term care, Just cannot leave in dump like where she is now ! Again beside point have hard time with her insurance which is Kaiser and I'm sure i'm gonna have to fight and have issues when I ask for specific matterse already told cannot have Jjeri chair1 Was wondering if there is anywhere I can rent one also.Not sure if she could get qualify for Medicaid have conference with Elder law lawyer Monday morning.Today I feel numb sad tiredddddd wondering and mostly feel like crying.Its so hard not to get the feeling to just give up for me anyway.Also does anyone no if its worth trying to find(not sure what they are called but they are for making it easier to turn someone when they are bed bound if anyone knows what Im trying to say and ask about please give me feedback thank you.Im sorry said wasn't gonna say much but I am also advice was thinking maybe I should drop her Kaiser and just go with Medicare can I please have feedback on that also.Thank you all take care
Here's hoping that eldercare consult is a huge help. I know mine was. It is sad and there is no reason in the world not to allow yourself a good cry or two or more. But for real - you sound like you have been pretty depressed for a looong time and I hope you can try to get some help for yourself too. When you are depressed it is hard to focus on the most important things and every little thing just seems like another hopeless obstacle to overcome, and even harder not to be mean and negative with people who are not getting the whole picture and don't seem to be listening to you let alone helping. Then they start acting even worse.
The truth is Mom is declining but she has YOU and your deep concern and care for her. You can't prevent her from declining, but you are there beside her when you can be and you are trying to get her the best care and comfort she can have through this difficult time. Hugs and prayers for you and mom!
In my experience, Medicare is the primary insurance and your Kaiser would be the secondary policy anyway. So they file Medicare first, and then what that doesn't pay would be filed with Kaiser and then depending on the policy, they would pay.
Not sure about renting a Geri (short for geriatric) chair, but you could certainly check that out.
Use a washable or disposable pad underneath your mother's buttocks to catch the "overflow" from her disposable underwear.
Good luck and try to get some rest.