She knew we were coming. But passed the day before we arrived. My daughter, husband and I stayed in her home while visiting and making arrangements. My daughter slept in mom's bedroom where she died. One night my daughter was in bed with only the light of a night light glowing in the kitchen in front of her door. She said she was not asleep. Then she sees a woman standing near her door. Just the dark outline of her and her hair which was like mom's. When she cried out the woman turns and went into the living room. My daughter got up and checked but no one was there. She came to my room terrified. My daughter is 29, is an ICU nurse and not prone to believing in ghosts. We are mystified at this. It could be a nightmare but seems to not be.
Previous to this, I spent a month with mom and the bumping and knocking was so bad in her house, I teased that daddy was checking on her. It was creepy.
A strange mystery.
But...these old walls in old houses do creep us all out on occasion. Sorry about her passing.
If they're interpreted as contact or reassurance from a loved one, or self assurance, and if they make the surviving relative feel comforted, that's all that matters in my book.
On several occasions after my sister died, I would suddenly smell her perfume. I never wear perfume, so it wasn't from me. The perfume bottle was nowhere near me when it happened, nor was it in area where a draft could carry it close to me.
After my mother died, I kept hearing the phone ring either in the middle of the night, or early morning when I was still asleep. I could hear her voice as I answered the phone, apparently in my imagination. I fully expected to see her phone number (which my father still has), I checked caller ID but there were no calls.
I think there can be unspoken and unresolved issues after someone dies, and sometimes these events speak to those lingering concerns. And sometimes the events may be our way of comforting ourselves about the loss of our loved ones.
I also know that intense situations such as the loss of a loved one heighten our awareness and senses, and sometimes that can cause us to believe that something is happening that really isn't.
This is an interesting question; I'm glad to be able to read about other's experiences.
I don't believe in a here-after or supernatural things, or that anyone is driving from the great beyond. What I have experienced is my mind's way of processing information and feelings. We can have memories that trigger a sense. Sometimes I can smell the starch in my dad's shirts even though he's been gone nearly 30 years. I could hear the change in his pocket rustle like it did when he walked down the hall. To me, these are just sense memories but I don't believe he's there in any way. These memories are so ingrained that my brain can call them up all these years later. Sometimes these sense memories come to me in dreams.
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