She has mild/moderate Alzheimer's and is a fall risk, so she can't be left alone. I am really feeling sorry for myself that I can't do anything without being sure that someone is home to take care of her. Mom goes to Adult Day Care 4 days a week, so I do get a break while I go to work, but never-the-less, I am really missing my life before she moved in. I also miss the family time that we had before she moved in. My kids that are still living with us are somewhat resentful that Mom is here and spend a lot of time in their rooms, where before, they spent a lot of time with the family. They're 18 and 21, so it's not like they'll be home for much longer.
Any suggestions on how to get over the self pity? I really don't like the way I'm feeling...
I hope that it will get easier for you. The first few months are the hardest, with everyone getting use to each other. How does your husband feel about it?
capnhardass - I think the lesson I need to learn is patience. The thing that I can't let go of is when Mom doesn't use her walker. She's only been with us 5 months and has fallen 5 times...all of those when she isn't using the walker. When she's at day care, she's very good about using it. I need to just walk over, put the walker in front of her and not say a word. I find it much easier to type than put in to practice. You have a wonderful attitude - I think I can learn something from you.