They nursing home moved a roommate into my mother's room yesterday morning. The lady is in respite care she came in very unaware of her surroundings, no family present I understood she came from the hospital. She was not making sense I assume has dementia etc.. I went to see my mom today at a different time just because things were different. When I arrived at the nursing home my mom was outside of her room in her wheelchair without her oxygen hooked up. The room had food all over it where the woman had thrown her food. My mom said the nurse stay with the woman all night which in turn kept my mom awake. Now my mom can be a pistol, but none of this was her doing. I talked to the head nurse and she said that if we complained they could move my mom. I just paid $50.00 to have my mom's cable hooked up and will have to pay another 50.00 to move it. In my opinion the patient they moved in is disruptive and they could move her. Plus, she pulls off her hospital gown and is undressed in the bed by the door. I am going to give the Head Nurse a couple of days to fix this but I do not believe that my mom should have to move nor should I have to pay to have the cable moved. Any opinions or suggestions ?
Give your Mom a nice back rub for me and take her outside for some fresh air. Breathe and relax. She will pick up on the calm and get centered a bit. xoxo
I went out in the hallway a little later, and the roommate's husband came at me with his fist raised, ready to hit me, and shouting that I had yelled at these children that I had never even seen.
An aide came along, as he was screaming at me, and refused to get involved. So I pointed out that what he'd done was assault, and I wanted to make a formal complaint. Suddenly, another room was available (though we'd been told for 2 days that there was no other bed), and my mother was moved to a better, cooler, larger room. In short: they can move your mom and give her cable for free (maybe it's a better room!) ; or they can move the roommate. I doubt that it's legal for your mom to be in such a filthy, unsafe situation. If it's like my mom's nursing home, there is almost no one working with any power, or seemingly with any interest in fixing problems; I had to make a fuss to right many wrongs. (And by the way, her new roommate was wonderful.)
What on earth is the NH thinking of? Crazy!
My mother was in and out of rehabs more than I can count and had mental health problems. She was always the one to be moved - and that is how it should be. It's not often "easy" to move the difficult patient, so that is why they like to take the easier route and move the poor person who is settled in and keeping to themselves. As said above; don't take know for an answer. Your poor mother should be able to stay right where she is. Blessings to you and take care.