AAAARGH!! I've had this ongoing (and slightly irritating) issue with Dad, dementia and counting. I know that dementia patients typically have issues with keeping numbers straight, so I'm assuming that this is related.
He has a tendency to "inflate" the number of certain items he has. In this case, it's pants. I bought him 5 pair of the pull on pants with the elastic waist (he struggles with buttons and zippers on the fly) about a year ago, but since moving him to AL, he is CONVINCED that someone is stealing his clothes.
No matter how many times I lay out each pair of pants and try to reassure him that they're all there and that's all that he has ever had, it's like talking to a rock (over and over and over again... we have this conversation at least 4 times a day).
I know that Dad can't help it, but it's driving me bananas. He even threatened another resident yesterday because he was sure that the man had stolen his pants.
Any suggestions on how I can divert Dad's attention on the pants?
Pulling out the pants and reassuring your dad that they're all there is the logical thing to do. But your dad isn't capable of logic (which you've discovered). You're trying to solve the problem rationally with someone who isn't rational.
You mentioned diversion in your post. Diverting your dad's attention away from the pants situation isn't helpful? When he brings up the pants have you tried to suggest that the two of you go get a cup of coffee and then look for the pants? Just something that will pull his attention away from the pants. Maybe it's a treat you've brought him (that you hang onto until the inevitable pants discussion comes up) or a newspaper that you can read to him in another part of the facility than his room.
When he brings up the pants divert him and lead him away from his room for an activity or treat. A snack might help or a cup of coffee or tea. Whatever your dad enjoys.
Something else that may work is if you bought a couple of the same kind of pants and stashed them in his dresser drawers so when he's looking for them either you or he can "accidently" come across them and be able to say, "Oh, I've found them! They were in here!"
We can't expect our loved ones with dementia to live in our world anymore. We have to go into their world and be with them there. And in your dad's world someone is stealing his trousers. In our world we just count how many pairs of pants we have to make sure they're all there. In your dad's world that's not the solution.
Whatever you end up doing that helps come back and write about it. So many adult children have this problem with their elderly parent.
When my cousin made comments that I knew were not true, I would assure her that it had been resolved. That made her feel better in the moment. Of course, she would forget and I would have to repeat it the next time, but it worked for the present. I would say, that I had made a call and everything had been fixed. Problem solved. She could never recall what was said the day before. She would give stuff away and then forget that she did it. So, that's why things were missing. Now, she has no idea if anything is missing.