Have any of you had the experience of a loved one seemingly waiting to see a specific person or make it to their birthday or another holiday before they finally let go? Last weekend my mother saw one of her grandsons and his wife who live in another state. This upcoming week her other grandson who lives far away is coming. Then she will have seen everybody. It's our hope this will give her the go ahead to die.
Right now she's doing that thing where we think one day is her very last on earth...and then the next day she perks up. She hasn't been out of bed in a week and a half (not even to get up to watch the pro basketball games she loves). She eats/drinks very little for a time then perks up and eats for a day or two. It's crazy making.
So has it happened to you where your loved one waited for a person/event before leaving this mortal coil? What's a mortal coil, anyway?!
When my grandfather died, it was shortly after my aunt told him it was ok to go.
When my husband’s grandma died 6 years ago, I always thought it was strange how she died right after I left with the kids. My MIL had called everyone and told them that she was most likely going to pass that night & to come to the nursing home if they wanted to say goodbye. We were the last to get there. My husband stayed with his mom because he didn’t want her to be alone when his grandma passed so I left with the kids and I wasn’t home more than 10 minutes before she passed away. I’ve always thought maybe she waited until some of her great grandchildren had visit her. She was actively dying of pulmonary fibrosis and in a comatose state but I think she knew we were all there.
I am so sorry. I hope your mother’s passing is peaceful & she gets to see her grandson one last time. Once he’s with her, maybe you all could give her your blessing to go.
My Granny died on her birthday.
other family members have died on random dates that are not associated with an event.
My Mom, there was only one person who hadn't said goodbye, my nephew. We both went together. We stayed a little while and then said goodbye. 20 min later they found Mom has passed.
My FIL died in our home on Hospice, I had just been in the room with him for over an hour battling his fever and I slipped out of his room and was on the home with our Hospice Nurse trying to figure out what to do about it, but not wanting to speak in front of him, when we noticed on the baby monitor that it appeared he had stopped breathing, IMO, his preffered method, to be alone so as not to upset us, that was exactly his personality. I was thankful to have the Nurse right there with me on the phone as we pronounced him dead. Thankfully we had said our goodbyes, many times over.
My MIL died just after her husband had left the hospital for the evening.
So I do believe if we do have Any control over our dying, then it is up to us and our own preference on how and when we pass over, there is no wrong or right way to go about it.
My MIL later told me she was praying that he wouldn’t die on their anniversary. I really feel that he was waiting to see her one last time. Maybe he was also wanting to make it through their anniversary.