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My mom is nearly 100 years old, and is in the advanced stages of dementia. She has recently been talking about my dad, who passed away eight years ago, as if he is still with her. She also talks about her mom, as if she, too, were still living. Has anyone had experiences similar to these? Could she actually be communicating with my dad and my grandma?

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This is just her brain. More and more short term memory goes and more and more long term memory stays. No, she is not communicating with them, in my humble opinion. As a nurse I saw over many many years none of the death experiences you hear about in "stories". The one thing I did see over and over again on the actual deathbed the day that the person actually died was that the person said they saw relatives, and felt ready to go. Especially profound experience with a young man with AIDS who was ranting against death until the last day, when he said he saw a sister that died before him; that she was waiting to help him over, and he was ready to go. He was very peaceful after that. So honestly, who really knows. I am an atheist. But I have seen people be helped by this, whatever the reason for it is.
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What you understand to be true is going to depend on your own belief system, you might find some insight and comfort from the book "Final Gifts:Understanding the Special Awareness, Needs, and Communications of the Dying" by Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley

From Amazon - "In this moving and compassionate classic—now updated with new material from the authors—hospice nurses Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley share their intimate experiences with patients at the end of life, drawn from more than twenty years’ experience tending the terminally ill."
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In my active belief, this does happen.
I have also been privy to instances of “visits” and otherworldly interventions, although I am also trained in an academic field that relies heavily on science, and I adhere strictly to its scientific scruples.

The night my mother died, I sat with her holding her hand until I realized that my father, in his brown tweed suit, had come into her room, and was waiting behind me in the doorway.

I knew that she would be ready to accompany him.

Several hours later, I received the expected call that she was gone.
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Oh yes, hospice nurses write books on this very subject and see it all the time, where a dying person communicates with loved ones who have died previously. There is way, way, way too much evidence these days about the afterlife to dispute it........even doctors have written books on the subject from their own experiences. Former atheists who were converted after one near death experience to come back and write a book about it! Check out Proof of Heaven by Dr. Eben Alexander, for one, and To Heaven and Back by Mary C. Neal, M.D. Two excellent reads.

Anyway, my Uncle John was in a coma for days, lying in bed and unresponsive, until one day he sat bolt upright in the bed with a wide grin on his face, eyes wide open, and shouted MOM at the top of his voice. He passed the next day.

Don't doubt for a moment that your dear mom is indeed communicating with your dad and your grandma who are getting her ready to transition and to join them on the other side.

Best of luck
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This was a few years ago. When my mom was very ill, and we thought she was near death, she said my late father came to her room, almost everyday. She kept telling him to not leave and take her with him, but he didn't. One time, she actually got up (she was very weak and needed a walker to walk) and tried to follow him. I couldn't confirm one way or the other if she was seeing him in her mind or he was actually visiting her, until one night.

That night, I was in her room standing at her bedside. She pointed towards the foot of the bed and said my late father was standing there looking at her. Well, I looked and I didn't see anything. I told her so. She kept insisting. And I kept saying no. Then, I saw him, in the mirror, walking/floating out the room through the window. I froze. I was terrified for the next two days avoiding looking into any mirrors. Maybe he showed himself to me just to prove me wrong.

My mom eventually improved and she stopped seeing my dad. She never mentioned him again. Maybe she will when she's ready to leave for real next time.
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pamzimmrrt Aug 2020
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YES, THIS HAPPENS, PROBABLY MORE OFTEN THAN WE KNOW OR HEAR ABOUT :)
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shad250 Aug 2020
EXACTLY
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