What are the best ways to ensure that what I do, is not looked upon with suspicion by my Sis who has POA. This has been an ongoing problem.
I know to save all the receipts. I know to keep a log of all the driving, shopping, doctor visits, online shopping, church services, air filter changes on furnace, mouse traps cleaned, shovel sidewalks or pay the city fine......and I've always tried to play Devils Advocate-- how will Sis point a finger at me for this?
Just wondering how others of you, work within this seemingly impossible situation (being primary caregiver, but not having the POA, and it's unlikely to change since Dad has dementia).
If sis is in charge of caring for mom, then tell her to either take on her responsibility or your done. If she refuses to care for her, then go to the probate court in your county and file a petition for guardianship over both parents due to their incapacity or mental deficiencies. This is what I had to do to gain legal authority over my mother since my sisters didn't want any part of the caregiver responsibilities.
However what the folks need, is daily CARE, time, understanding, sharing meal with them, take out their trash can, homebaked cookies, and most of all, come & sit with them for awhile, without expecting a reward of some type.
Sis will do none of that. She demands to be paid to come visit.
Its a sad situation but I fear is repeated many times in many families.