I have assumed the role of "Bill Payer" for my parents and have discovered that a "Dr. Rob, Psychic Medium/Spiritual Advisor" is sending my mom letters stating that she owes him money for guidance.
I wrote to him, stating that my mom was on a fixed income and her husband was in the hospital and she was immediately canceling her subscription to him (evidently she has paid him hundreds of dollars). But recent billings from him make no mention of her previous request for cancellation, only stating that she owes him more money.
My mom is 84 years old, nearly blind in one eye, sight is compromised in the other eye, and she can barely walk.
I thought that there was legislation in place to protect the elderly from contracts such as this--although my mom has no recollection of entering into a contract with him in the first place.
I've tried Googling various sentences to see if I can get a hit on any such legislation, but I can't find any.
Do any of you know about this?
Thanks for any help you can provide!
Barb F
I wrote all over the envelope "Post Master" - this is "Fraud Mail" and Elder Abuse" Return!!!! - and send it back. They just want money, but if you harass them back, they stop. We get so much mail like this, its so frustrating!!
I hope you're not going through the same problem I did, but if you are, try doing what I did and you'll probably be rid of him.
Good luck to you! And now, here's my answer from April 16th:
Hi Folks--First let me apologize if my post appears once as a partial post and now as a complete one. I stopped in the middle of typing the first one to check old emails for verification of what I had written and when I tried to come back to my post, it was gone. I don't know if it cleared itself or posted.
In any case, what I was trying to let you all know was that #1 I'm sorry for not following up and letting everyone know how things turned out.
#2--what I did was follow the advice of one of the responders--I contacted the Better Business Bureau of Delaware and filed an online complaint--it's completely free of charge.
I don't remember all of the details because it was quite awhile ago, but I do remember typing in the exact text of Dr. Rob's "threatening" collection letter on the complaint form so they'd know exactly how emotionally threatening his words were.
In response to my filing, I received emails from the BBB of Delaware--letting me know they'd received my complaint; that they'd investigate; what their findings were.
At the conclusion of their investigation, Dr. Rob agreed to stop sending collection letters to my mom, to stop writing to her altogether. He did send one last letter to her stating something along the lines of "I'm sorry to see our association come to an end...you will not be receiving any further bills from me...etc. "
Thankfully, he did keep his word--no more letters, no more bills.
My mom was completely shocked when I told her how many other individuals were being swindled by him. She had actually become afraid to stop paying him; I guess because she was fearful that he just might have some power to make her life fall apart or be "hexed" if he got mad at her.
One thing I learned through this was that if I took the time to print out the research I had discovered--in this case, that was the comments made by all of you--it carried a LOT more weight than if I just told her about them.
Now I calmly ask her to let me research an entity before she sends money to them--I don't chastise her or make her feel foolish for thinking she should send them money. I just tell her, "Mom, let me check them out on the Internet and I'll print out what I find so you can look it over and decide."
That approach is working so much better than my previous approach--"MOM...you paid WHO to do WHAT!!!! They're crooks! Why did you send them money?!!!!"
Even though I just turned 60, I'm still learning and still realizing that the two very important gifts I can give my mom are dignity and respect. And raising my voice or speaking to her like she's my daughter--and a foolish daughter at that--instead of my mother isn't showing her dignity or respect.
But I still must admit that I hope individuals like Dr. Rob who prey on the fears of others and those who take advantage of people burn in hell for their actions.
Thanks so much for all your support.
Barb
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