Am I the only one dreading calling my loved one in ALF?
Since my aunt has been in isolation, I have been calling her every other day. I know that she comprehends that I call her often, but I have absolutely no idea if she remembers just how often.
Since the Covid restrictions went into place, her dementia has gotten so bad that it's painful to talk to her.
I'm trying so hard to manage my feelings of guilt with my feelings of love and duty. Also dealing with my own health issues. Still waiting on answers.
How are all of you dealing with these issues??
Is anyone else feeling the same way??
I would call. Maybe just let her talk and you just go along with what she says. There comes a time they make no sense and trying to carry on a conversation is hard. My daughter would just go "really, that is nice, I know what u mean" my Moms face would light up when she came into the room. Someone who talked to her. Me not so much. I would try to answer what she said and she would be onto the next thing.
It is hard for your aunt to be kept isolated with no visitor which caused her mental condition to worsen. Please keep in mind, these things that are happening are not within your control, so you should not feel guilty. Stress and worries will not be good for your current health issue. Please take care of yourself.
It's hard enough for those of us that understand why!
I can't imagine how scary it must be to restart every day with out a clue as to why they are being forced to stay in their rooms.
I worry that she's not gonna rebound the slightest bit.
(((Hugs))) Hang in there!!
Let go of the guilt and realize/accept that you too are doing all you can do here.
Best of luck!