My 88 year old mother has developed into a terror. A very mean demeanor.....arguing, cussing and everything is negative with her. It's amazing what us caregivers have to put up with. These old people lose part of their mind in the aging process and the ones taking care of them are on the receiving end of their wrath. It's absolutely mind-boggling with all the problems these elders develop......not just physical problems, but the resistance they dish out to those that are trying to care for them. Instead of making it easy for their caregivers.....these elders make it hell. I deal with it every day. It's terrible what the aging process does to the human body!
I have endured an investigation by the State and being shunned by the Dr for a period of time all due to the time he called the bank and told them he didn't want a POA. It took us a month to get it straightened out and the bank manager understood once I provided the proof he had dementia. Plus, he had told them he wanted me to be POA (after) he was dead. Not before. This helped as they explained to him why a POA was necessary while he is still alive. But the bank manager also dutifully explained why his duty was to call the State and report this. Let me tell you, it was NOT fun for me but turned out well simply because they (the State) finally realized my patient was wacked. In the meantime, they never ever called me and went behind my back to only speak with my friend and I had to get in touch with them. Be careful and have all medical papers ready so you can defend yourself and your Mom from these predators. We also have problems with a neighbor who thinks he's inheriting a car and several other items from the estate because most likely my patient has said he's giving these things to him. Now that I am prepared, they can do no harm. Also, make sure you have a guardianship. It's very important. Even though I am POA and also executrix I was told I had to get guardianship so am now once again hard at work to protect him from himself. Good luck and God Bless. I find extra love and a little pampering and praise go a long way with him and always listen to his stories with interest even if you have heard them a hundred times. It somehow settles them down.
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