My husband and I are relocating to another county in our state. My mother is in a ALF now but will have to move her to a different one so she will be closer to me. Telling her and her leaving will not be a problem but when she realizes that she will be going to another facility instead of living with me might be a problem. What do I do if when we get her to the new place and she pitches a fit? Her new place is alot nicer and it has a big community kitchen that she can cook anything she wants on her own. Does anyone have any advise to keep her from not wanting to stay at her new facility?
Condolences on the loss of your mother.
I am sure that you have good reasons for moving your mom to another ALF that is near to your new home, but not living with you. It's not easy but just try and reassure her that you will still be nearby and will continue to spend time with her as always. Perhaps you can get her interested in decorating her new home with stuff that comforts her such as photographs, paintings, etc.
Good Luck!