I have been mom's caregiver for almost 3 year and she has norapathy and thinks everything else. I am always trying to explain to her why she should move around but she yells at me. She just tells me how rotten she feels. I try to explain to her why she feels this way. All she does is walk to the bathroom and back to her bed. (This takes her a long time as it is but at least she is moving.)
She hasn't been out of her bedroom in at least two weeks , I am extremely fustrated. The doctors tellher as well as everyone else including my dad which has Parkinbson's. I have him in the hospital till tomorrow and he will be coming home and I don't want him to be upset again over this whole thing.I can's get her up . What do I do? I've tryed everything but scream at her. HELP!
Is she also dealing with depression or what is it that makes her seclude herself? I don't know what norapathy is ... what is she like when your dad is there? Better? Same? Worse?
What is the cause of her "feeling rotten"? Physical? Emotional?
It is so hard to watch someone just exist when there is so much still out there for her to enjoy - I'm watching my mother in law do something fairly similar - but she is still living on her own - but has some of the same challenges.
I really have encouraged her to consider assisted living but she is not interested.
How are you doing? Do you have time away? Are you married/have a partner - to share the responsibility with? What does her doc think about what is going on for her? Can you talk with him and her together and make a plan to help her become more active/get out?
You sound like you are in crisis and need help ... what is the arrangement you have made with your parents? What other resources might assist you with your mom? I am glad you are sharing your situation ...
Barb
tell her the bed is wet and smelly etc
wash the sheets that will take a couple of hours
do it every day if need be
i know it is a lot but you can get them out of the bed for all day if you want