Hi, my age 68 mom, who suffers some dementia issues, is seeming to revert to how she was when she was a teenager. She is becoming very self-important, and acting spoiled (she was doted on by her parents), and saying things like she has an immature mind. For instance, when talking about gifts and Christmas in the past, she would say "oh, don't worry about me, or just may something small from Dillards." This was her last email..I asked her what her size is now, I did not tell her what I was going to buy..Mom: "Hi Hon!
If you want to, we can go shopping when you come here. If that is OK. You are so sweet. I haven’t bought a lot of clothes. But I did purchase three pairs of jeans from Dress Barn. (The size is 8 average. The tag is on the inside of the jeans and it says rozandALI. Jeans have sparkles on the back of the jean pockets and in front.) (The next one is stretchy denim so I can where my UGG boots. Same rozandALI but size 4. (nice and soft). (The last one is black , Westport, bootcut. Size 4 average.) Haven’t worn the last 2 jeans.)
Maybe it will be warm (ha) after Christmas. I don’t know if you were planning on getting me jeans and if not let me know."
I don't feel like I even know this woman anymore. In her head she must have been thinking "I want more jeans" then inserted that into what I was getting her. Her sister has also noticed that she is acting like she did when she was a teenager. Mom has gastroparesis, and struggles with eating and staying healthy, but seems to have plenty of energy. Dad dotes on her and does whatever she wants, which doesn't help.
I guess I am wondering if this ever happens in the elderly, or if this is some kind of reaction to stress. It is really bizarre. Maybe I am just overeacting. Thanks for any input, thank you, Shannon
Sixty-eight is so young to be caught up in dementia. I am so sorry for her. Maybe having a doting husband is a blessing for her.
If you do go shopping with her, expect it to be like shopping with a teenager. In other words, you may have to set some limits. Tell her frankly that you can't afford something she wants (if it is over the amount you had in mind to spend). Steer her toward the appropriate departments (but at least you don't have to worry about the school's dress codes), and giggle with her over hot fudge sundaes when you are through.
Dementia is bizarre. I am sorry you are going through this, but try to turn it into happy times with Mom. She can't help having dementia. At least she is not belligerent and she still knows and likes you! Seeing your mother behave like a teenager is disconcerting, definitely, but with patience and love I'm sure you can get through it.
I understand your dismay with your mother's actions and word. And also to say at least she isn't wanting a mini skirt with those ugg boots! My mom did that! OMG at 200 lbs not pretty LOL oh well we love em and have to have a sense of humor and not take things too personally when they act immature. We know that they would not do these things or say these things if they weren't ill.
We cringe, but who is it hurting?