Been trying to cope with mom going in hospital and having surgery. Blocked colon. She was in hospital for over a week. Just transferred to nursing home for rehab. More stress cause of brother about where she got sent for rehab etc. She is too weak for rehab right now and occasionally disoriented. She is also an hour away from me. If husband drives. An hour and a half to two hours if I drive. I only drive residential streets.
How do I continue to cope? Took bubble bath last night but was so sound up it didn't help a lot. Need more emotional reserves.
Barbara
None of this is under your control. Getting upset doesn't help mom
Get updates on her and be in contact with the social worker about whether mom can go back to living without significant support.
Slow down and take the suggestions above to talk to and coordinate with those caring for her. You can't possibly do it all, none of us can. Please, stop. Take some deep breaths. There is no quick fix that will happen fast enough to quell your anxiousness. Somehow you must learn to tolerate your anxiety while going through and learn not to jump! Seek the support you have and formulate a plan of which you are not the only one leading the charge. You are no good to anyone if you are a nervous trainwreck. Don't mean to be harsh but I know all too well the many costs that come with unchecked and uncontrolled anxiety. You'll be in my prayers sweetheart.
Right now I'm not focused much on whats to come. Somewhat, but not completely. I just need energy to cope. Have very little in me. Emotional energy mostly. Though I don't seem to have a lot of physical energy eighter.
Barbara