Am an only child of a father that is 99years old who has dementia and alz for the past 9 years. Through years of therapy, because of panic attacks anxiety, and depression, I have realized that my father was emotionally abusive and negligent even when I was an extreme nth young child.
Mom passed 10 years ago and my father came to live with me. I have cared for him in my home, developed dementia and alz. I am a single woman who cared for him at home and working half time. Wonderful help from the Alz association and Sprinwell. Finally, because of safety reason , I had to places him in a nursing home. The first 3 months were traumatic for him and me. He would call me up to 6 times a day to come home. He would have temper tantrums over the phone. I would start shaking and I developed panic attacks again. I hired a geriatric care manager through the alz assoc. to keep tabs how he is doing in the nursing home.
My father is in stage 7 of the disease.
What do you do with people who are so judge mental even when it is not their business. I thought she was a really great neighbor and now I will never feel the same. People don't understand that they may not have the whole story.
I have been grieving my father and his disease. I am also grieving the father that I never had.
Thanks to all of you for reading this! My best to you all and I live by the words that 'Everyday is a gift!'
Neighbor is likely projecting this own issues. Ignore him.
Otherwise, this woman can stuff it. How nervy to make your problems about her. I mean, how much more selfish can somebody get? I cut off every single person who had opinions and no willingness to help a long time ago. Forget them and don't look back.
If she says anything again, just tell her that 1 out of every 3 Caregiver passes away leaving behind their love one, those are terrible odds.... you didn't want that to happen to your Dad.
caalimenti, please find some enjoyment for yourself...
My point is, I understand about neighbors! I wish the best for you and your dad, and sorry for the loss of your mom. You are in my thoughts and please stay strong.