There was a Hugh blow up over a month ago with my sister in law who at the time had POA, her name was on ALL accounts; house banking electric water... During this argument she stormed in the house screaming " I OWN this F**ing house" and the next day MIL had her removed from EVERYTHING. Put another SIL who lives in NY state as Exec over her estate and because we live with her named my HUSBAND as POA, He insisted he NOT be put on any other accounts such as bank and home. Due to the fact she has less than 6 months to a year to live my SIL in NY can delegate her final wishes and see it is done according to MOM's wishes.
The day the SIL who lives 5 minutes from us ; who never calls refuses to help at all even to take her to the Doctors, learned she had been removed from ALL accounts turned the electric off, the water off and called PROTECTIVE services on US !! if that's not the pot calling the kettle black ... So protective services came to the house and we have not heard anything more from them, that doesn't mean we won't though/ I was down with the worst flu I have ever had in my life and explained to the lady I really didn't want to come to the table to "chat" because I was in fear of mom catching what I had. The poor woman can barely walk let alone run to the toilet to throw up every 5 seconds.
So, Do we have any recall from that false allegations? the woman who came out said she was going to talk to other members of the family , who all screen SIL''S calls because they are fed up with the way she has treated mom/
I don't know if there is any retaliation; but I would make sure everything is legal; because once you MIL passes away. Your SIL probably will take you to court. So I would try to cover all your bases to show you didn't do anything wrong. Any documents drawn by an attorney should not be disputed since the attorney works for you mother not you. Document everything. I have heard about so many families taking each other to court and suing each other. Lies are told etc, your SIL sounds like a good candidate for that.
Last January I moved my mom in with me. She is 92 and has Alzheimer's. Before that, my mom was supporting my sister for years; sending her money, paying her bills etc. All that stopped when I started taking care of mom and my sister called APS and told them I was abusing my mother. I was investigated and it was pretty obvious I wasn't.
I knew my sister would be a problem, so one of the first things we did was went to an elder care attorney. The attorney works for the parent and follows their wishes. At that time, my mom's dementia wasn't that bad and he felt confident that the new POA and executorship was valid. Witnesses are present and everything has been notarized.
If you haven't been to attorney - get one ASAP.
Also, you asked about how he had money in a facility. He was living in an independent living apartment at a senior community that also had assisted living and nursing home on the premises.
Are you thinking of the person being investigated suing the accuser? For what? What damage or harm was done? Annoying, yes, but you can't take up court resources over being annoyed.
She got the HOA to tear down my father's handicap ramp! No kidding...making false accusations! Every little thing she could think of...this she would do.
When I came to help them...I am sure she figured out that forcing me to leave them would mean she could finally get rid of my parents altogether..forcing them into nursing homes because no one could care for the at home.
She would call APS every week! APS came right up to the point of threatening me with arrest!
This was much much more than annoyance!
It took a lawyer to get involved with APS to finally end the harassment from them and the neighbor.
Neighbor finally got her way...I moved my parents and sold the house.