I am so distraught. I want to run far away from this place. My son and his girl friend, and baby live with me in my mother's home. The girl friend is very disrespectful and unemployed. She will not help me with any housework and goes behind me to report any arguments we have to my son while he is at work. This stresses him out and he calls and abuses me to leave girl friend alone. I am trying to care for mother solo and get no help from my older brother. My son will help out once in a while.but resorts to drinking when he is under duress. I feel like I have no one to turn to except God who seems quiet while all this is going on. Usually I have a pretty good grip on life but it is starting to wear me down. Additionally, I take antidepressant and anxiety medicine but does not seem to be helping me much. I suppose I just need to vent because this website and caregivers are so compassionate and understand what the reality is behind caregiving and dysfunctional families. Thank you for listening and God Bless you as you face your own challenges.
You know what I got, I bunch of stupid b.... about how I am lucky my parents paid for my education which in fact they did not (student loans to prove it).
I will never ask again! Wow how sad I had to beg and pled a family member who is a surgical nurse for help!
I need to walk away and heart tugs because I love my mother. By the way, my brother does not even live with us.
The advice I got from the surgical nurse was basically to ignore it and stop talking about my brother...wow...do they hire these kind of people at Cedar Sinai in Los Angeles?
By the way, it was first time I have ever asked her for help.
Just like with child bearing, guys have NO IDEA what we go through to be successful caregivers. They need to walk in our shoes before they say a WORD. Lots of of ignoring and taking care of yourself FROM NOW ON.
Kathy
Our nephew found a job 3 weeks after he got here, our son still procrastinating, grand-niece is handicaped and can't do school and work part-time. Our son became disrespectful towards me, so I kicked him out of the house. I told the other 2, the same thing will happen to them if they get out of hand. As "head of this household", who pays all the bills, buy all the groceries, take care of a dementia husband and home, I have the authority to kick them out because they were never invited to come to live with us.
Everyone is responsible to remind my husband to take his medication and if you don't cook or prepare any meals, then your the cleaner-upper. Our nephew helps with the meals and cleaning when he's off. Grand-niece does the kitchen after school and meals.
Remember honey, YOU'RE the "head huncho", you have enough on your hands to deal with ... get rid of them or make them follow Your rules.