I'm a live in caregiver, and I am due to inherit the family home and property. Others in my family have been told about this. My sister in law showed up and started cutting down trees that I had asked to have left for privacy. Parents are afraid of getting her mad, so they just go along with it to keep the peace. I feel like I am doing all the work around here but have no say so or respect as to my wishes. On one other occasion she cut down some flowers I had put out. She acts like she is the only one with any sense and constantly over steps boundaries. Any advice?
I hope you have considered that you may not inherit anything. If your parents' health worsens they may need all their assets for their own needs. In spite of everyone's good intentions one or both of them may require a nursing home.
If your parents won't even back you up in protecting the property now, I don't think you can depend on much of anything.
I don't know where that leaves you. But I hope you are looking at this with your eyes wide open.
I have always known that this house/land is not going to me. My father told me so. He is old fashion. It's going to my brothers. If I wanted one, I would have to marry a man who has it. Because I knew this from the beginning, I have absolutely refused to give my job while caregiving 2 bedridden parents 2 years ago. I was willing to die from exhaustion than to quit my job and stay home to watch them. My job is my security. It is my lifesaver from caregiving.
I think you need to come up with a back up plan. Are you computer savvy? Can you find a way to earn income using the computer? I'm so sorry. I know what it feels like when you did all the hard work of caregiving and then the siblings walk in, and demand equal shares - even though I have asked for years for their help and they didn't. Start saving up, find a way to support yourself - even if it means doing an online course. Something. Remember - back up plan.
Your SIL, must be a real peach. I am sorry, that no one will run her off the property.
If you meet the rule, the time to transfer would be now, before as Chicago said the will is changed without your knowledge.
Is brother reasonable?
We have to depend on them both for help ( I stay exhausted) so parents are reluctant to do anything. Now I will have to buy a fence - something we really can't afford. I am so mad because they were told not to cut these trees down and the attitude seems that my opinion doesn't count.
I have a copy of the will, so I know that I will get the house ( which is too much for me to manage, I'm sure) but now my mother is thinking that having siblings as executor may not be a good idea, and that maybe an attorney would be better. You know, I've had so many relatives tell me that I was to get this and that in their will - and then another relative steps in and takes everything- that I really don't count on anything, but as my brother has a home already, I know that the house is in the will as mine to inherit. I told them the other night - why shouldn't I go on strike - if I have no voting rights, then why keep doing housework, etc?
This is a family with no boundaries at all.
I didn't know about the transfer not being subject to look back - that is really good news. The whole situation with not having any security is really depressing me, and my doctor asked me the other day if I was still in the same situation as she feels it's affecting my health.