This past Easter, 10 family members came to town to visit mom. She's 89 and not mobile and I'm her sole caregiver. Upon their arrival all of these people expected me to have cooked a meal for them and even expressed it when they discovered I hadn't. Even the next morning they expected breakfast for all of them. Is it realistic for them to expect this of me? I do have a full time job in addition to taking care of mom, the home and myself.
Different families have different expectations, as do different ethnic groups and cultures. As families become more mobile, both geographically and economically, expectations that are unspoken lead to hurt feelings. To someone living on a very low income, someone living in their own home appears wealthy, when in fact they are struggling to pay the mortgage. Try to let go of hurt and make sure that the expectations are out in the open next time.