Father remarried after mother died. He had will drawn up setting up how his assets were to b split between adult children and 2nd wife. 2nd wife well taken care of. 2nd wife has become verbally abusive toward father and adult children to get it all. Children are very concerned over care father is receiving. Son has POA over stock acct adult children are to receive. Relationships are awful due to 2nd wife's verbal abuse and screaming fits. We are at wits end. We were there on daily basis taking father to dr appts, buying groceries, errands etc. We also did home repairs, yard work, etc. Wife 2 just yells and screams. Does not discuss what she wants. Rational conversations are not possible.. We have been kicked out and have no contact. Help!! Ideas!!
Perhaps she is the one with the beginnings of dementia or some other cognitive or mental health issue or even a UTI. Does she have any adult children you can contact who may be better positioned to talk to her? "Blended" families are fraught with complex trust issues, especially when it comes to inheritances.
Is it time for your father to suggest the second wife move on, or out? It doesn't seem as though she's contributing anything except strife.
Did wife kick you out or dad agreed to it as well? If it was only her, you need to contact an atty to find out about setting up in home visits with dad - similar to a child custody. It's very possible #2 is losing her mind and no longer competent - the changes in her behavior. Don't allow her to keep you out of the home. Someone needs to be observing what is going on in there.