I live outside the United States and couldn't come for my father's funeral. We participated through zoom. My father was 88, clear minded, living alone in an independent living facility. My mother had passed away 2 years earlier. He had a designated POA that his elder law attorney set up, who took care of his care needs (doctor visits, etc). The designated POA is also the executor on his will.
I don't know when in the coming months I will be able to travel to my father's grave. In the meantime, since the funeral, no one has been in touch with me. I was wondering what would become of the apartment and his stuff in the independent living facility.
Should I just wait to be contacted and updated, or reach out to see what is happening?
Sleepless
No one is going to try to call an international number to contact you from IL. especially if you were not the POA. The executor of the Will is the person you need to work with.
I am going through something a bit similar, not a parent, but my boss of many years, owner of the small company, and it was pretty much him and I manning the fort. It is all so overwhelming being close to the front lines. I am still trying to notify everyone as he had a huge friendship/client base. I spent two weeks hunting down my boss' car title so that the family could deal with the vehicle, finally found it stuffed away in banker box in storage. It's stuff like that the can cause panic in a family to forget to call someone.
Maybe text the family asking if there is anything you can do to help. Such as maybe your Dad told you where he had hidden away some money in a book [some elders do that]. Or that he had a safe deposit box and the key is located in his sock drawer.
I am so sorry for your loss, and at this most difficult time.
May God grant you grieving mercies and comfort during this difficult time.
"You will be sent a copy of your Father's will shortly.
If would be good if, at your convenience, you could send me a list of what you would like of your Fathers."
Wanted to share an update on how this is progressing.