My uncle has become fecally incontinent, or sometimes just unable to wipe himself without making a mess on his clothes. So now he requires showering or bathing at least 3-4 times per week. He has become uncooperative and beligerent about cleaning up. The health care aides are becoming so frustrated I'm afraid we will lose them and have to put him in a nursing home. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
My technique is to get him to the bathroom (usually on false pretenses) and then pull the diaper off quickly before he realizes what I'm doing. At that point, if he won't shower at least I can wipe him and put on a clean diaper.
The other alternative, only if I have a lot of time, is to run the bath, sit by the bathroom door calmly, and tell him he can't leave until he takes a bath. He'll come up with 10 reasons why I have to let him out, and after he realizes nothing is working he'll get in the tub.