My Aunt and her husband came Wed night and were suppose to leave on Sunday to relieve me.. well.. they just left!!!! They had a huge fight with my grandfather!!! They are not ever coming back either. I STILL had to get up early Thurs and today to feed and give my grandfather pills, and today an appt!!! Now, the only girl working two days a week will be there in the morning and I was going to sleep in at my home! But I will have to spend the night and get up and leave when she gets there...
I love my grandpa but Im sick from a cold/bronchitis, cant shake it. Also, teeth problems and I just want to spend time with BOTH of my kids.. ( she never wants to go with us to spend nights/ days) Plus I have lots to sort through and yard work here( not really rest but still)
Im the only family member left who his caring for him... as I mentioned before my dad tries but he has his own health issues and they argue badly. So...I got upset that they left. I shouldn't feel that way.. I know Im wrong.. why am I being so greedy? He has done soooo much for us...
I'm glad there is a little respite help in the picture already, and without more of it you are very likely to be spread too thin. Maybe the folks that can't handle him face to face could chip in a little financially, and your dad could handle some of the paperwork and phone call burdens that are going to come up - believe me that gets draining too.
So you still feel greedy? Guilty? You, my dear, have nothing to fear in that department. Call home health care (comfort keepers or some place like that ) they charge about $20 an hour when it gets too hard on you. Good luck.