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My stepmom and I spoke to my dad's doctor about the driving. She in turn sent a letter to the driver's licensing department, which informed them that he was not allowed to drive for medical reasons. It was a hard thing to do - and he always pined for the freedom of driving - but it was necessary for the safety of others on the road.
For the safety of everyone else on the road, FIL needs to stop driving. But, you already know this. Other than giving up our homes when we can no longer manage them, handing over the car keys is the most difficult thing for us Senior Citizens to do. None of us wants to be dependent on our kids to haul our behinds up to Mickey D’s If we get a craving for a Quarter Pounder at 9PM. But, especially if Dad has had a few close calls, he may already realize he can’t drive any longer. I know it’s the elephant in the room. The subject needs to be approached with gentle honesty, respect and compassion. On some level Dad knows he needs to give up driving and although he may argue and deny it, if you approach it the right way, he just may acquiesce.
Thank you all..... what I didn't think to say is that his family is all afraid of him and he dislikes me, because I'm not; won't talk to me if he can help it. Guess I'll pray that the Lord will do it; He has many ways!
Scary how? Drives too fast, fender benders, unexplained dings in the car, cuts off other drivers?
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Mum's partner does not drive much any more, only within a couple miles of home and not on the highway. The last time I was in a car with him driving (4 years ago), I told him if he did not slow down I was calling 911 from the back seat. Before that I had not been in a car he was driving for over 15 years.
My dad's doctor allowed me to make him the bad guy when it came to my dad giving up driving. Prior to an appointment I wrote a short note to the doctor and gave it to the nurse for the doctor to read before he came into the office. During the visit, the doctor advised my dad to give up driving so my dad did.
However, this was my last desperate attempt to get my dad to stop driving as we had discussed it time and again. He was bumping into things and there were dents and dings on his car. I tried for months to get my dad to stop driving but until the doctor advised it my dad wouldn't hear of it.
When his family are all cowering in fear of him, ask them how’d they would feel if their dad plowed into someone on the road and severely injured or killed them. We had an incident here in Ohio a few years back when a senior lady who had no business driving hit the accelerator instead of the brake and ran over a crowd of people, killing two of them. Hit them in the pocketbook. If, God forbid this happens, court costs and fines would eat up any savings he has. Is there anything that would prevent him from driving without a license?
Law enforcement may be able to help, do you have a friend or relative on the force? I was rear-ended by a woman in her 80s who clearly had no business driving. The officer that took the report filled out a request for a priority re-examination so that her license would be revoked. Perhaps he would stop driving if the DMV takes away his license?
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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What other options are available in his community?
Mum's partner does not drive much any more, only within a couple miles of home and not on the highway. The last time I was in a car with him driving (4 years ago), I told him if he did not slow down I was calling 911 from the back seat. Before that I had not been in a car he was driving for over 15 years.
However, this was my last desperate attempt to get my dad to stop driving as we had discussed it time and again. He was bumping into things and there were dents and dings on his car. I tried for months to get my dad to stop driving but until the doctor advised it my dad wouldn't hear of it.
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