My gram is going to kill me with her way of life. She is spoiled by the life we had. I have been dealing with this for 7 years once my mom, her daughter passed and a few years ago I lost my dad to cancer and that took years off my already disabled life but I'd do it all over again for he was an angel. Now my gram at 94 broke her back so she ended up living with me. I the only one left and She is still here with covid and her house being inhabitable is why shes been here for 10 months a few more months than anticipated. We had no idea she had a broken back we though it was sciatica because she failed to tell us age fell because her floor is covered in magazines at that time since then we've managed to get a lot of her house clean. not at all easy with shot lungs. It has been (lord help me) total hell. We her POA and we are just trying to get her home now because she was deemed competent by the hospital and her doc. I am not good at communicating with her and she antagonizes me. Is highly manipulative, a true actress! so she gets away with everything and the finger gets pointed at me or us I have lost both my parents and I've always been financially taken care of with an allowance even when I worked. Now I'm stuck. I am disabled but not collecting and she gives me my allowance and is how she works me. I'm a puppet. I have on camera her physically slapping and kicking me. No one cares because shes so wonderful to everyone but not me. I am not well. No one will take her so pretty much I have to send her home. And hand the car keys back. I haven't yet because I want to see her drive first. I never thought I'd have to do this and never will I again. I have taken care of all sorts of people with issues and ages. This is hell. Always telling me how to do everything and with no income or disability benefits I am stuck. Yesterday she freaked out because I had to check her taxes and payments etc. She cried out of nowhere saying it's not my business yet as poa, her attorney and tax preparer stated I have to make sure it's in order and sent correctly. That was all and it was a whole day of ridiculous things and how she hates life etc. my other half and I finally got it through her head that we were told to do so. Lord. Everything is like this with her. She's been waited on hand and foot. She ignorant of what she's doing to us. I just know I can't do this anymore and I've given up years of my life to get her back to norm. She is lucky to be walking and is in better health than my partner and I. He's also POA. I am so drained. Depressed and now add covid. She's thriving as we are dwindling down to nothing. Any suggestions for me and my other half ... much love. Jo
It is unfortunate that your Mom is at this stage. Get professionals to help her. We have people living into their 80s,90s and 100s, now.
Enjoy your own life, while you can. No amount of sacrifice on your part is going to change the fact that your parents are dependent and unhappy.
Make better choices for yourself.
Donyah
Donyah