My mother is elderly and has suffered a stroke.My wife and I have been caring for her over the past six years.Financial lyrics now that my kids are getting ready for college.We are on a tight budget .My mom gets social security and had inherited some money.Well family came with their hands out which dwindle d her account.So We decided to have my oldest sister as sole executive of her finance s which she has done a tremendously good job.But she refuses to send me money to help with food the electric and her meds.Can I do something about this because she acts like its hers .But yet she has no qualms about throwing my mom in a nursing home.I don't get help from my other siblings either .Can I make her financially t(-.-)tttt give me money or some of my moms social security to help.My wife spent teeny grand on building her a room But my sister doesn't want to give me money to help with food transportation nothing .What can I do please help?
When you say that sister is "sole executive" do you mean she has POA? What is her legal authority here?
I suggest you consult an attorney specializing in Elder Law, and draw up reasonable personal care and/or room and board contracts. Spell out what you provide and what you are charging. Have the attorney write a letter to your sister explaining the financial facts of life.
A nursing home would cost MUCH more than anything you are likely to charge. Is there something else going on here? Does Sister think you aren't doing a good job caring for Mom?
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To continue to accept this is a disservice to your mother.