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How are they managing their medications?
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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Hang in there, Mustanger! Many caregivers reach a meltdown point. There is always a way to improve the situation.
It sounds like you need to get out of the caregiving role, at least for a long break and maybe permanently. What kind of care does your father need? Are other people involved in his care, such as a visiting nurse or a sibling of yours? Are you living in his house or is he living in yours? If you don't want to be his caregiver you do not have to do it. There are resources in your community that can help you get on with your life, without your father being without care. Tell us your story. Someone will have useful information for you, when activity on the board picks up in the morning.
You can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at any time you feel you are in a crisis. 1-800-273-8255 Please do not suffer alone; call and talk to someone.
I'm sorry you are at this point. People here are understanding and often helpful. Could you give us a little more information, please? Are you currently a caregiver, or was that in the past? Who was/is the care receiver? Caregiving is almost always stressful. What are your biggest stress points? Tell us about where you are stuck. We'd like to help, or at least to commiserate.
Mustanger, my heart goes out to you and do empathize with your situation. Caregiving is at different levels for all of us and if you are at the end of your rope; you do need to reach out for assistance. As Jeanne mentioned above, there are many resources out there. Try calling the local elder services in your town and ask to speak to a social worker or counselor; they will be able to give you advice and are extremely understanding and helpful.
The first step is to make that call to them - there is so much support on this site and we all are here to help. Hugs to you across the miles.
Do you ever get a break? Would an hour at Starbucks with a good book help?
Are you caught in the Polar Vortex, or can you go outside? Exercise is the VERY best antidepressant there is.
Are you more hopeless or more irritated? They are both symptoms of caregiving. Do you have any support from friends or family? If you want it, there are lots of friends here.
Can you communicate in writing? Maybe he's deaf out of choice, does not want to listen anymore. Is there a senior center nearby? Can you take him there for lunch and see if he shows any interest in the place? Maybe the VFW or Legion Post? Find stuff he can do, get some free time for yourself.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
It sounds like you need to get out of the caregiving role, at least for a long break and maybe permanently. What kind of care does your father need? Are other people involved in his care, such as a visiting nurse or a sibling of yours? Are you living in his house or is he living in yours? If you don't want to be his caregiver you do not have to do it. There are resources in your community that can help you get on with your life, without your father being without care. Tell us your story. Someone will have useful information for you, when activity on the board picks up in the morning.
You can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at any time you feel you are in a crisis. 1-800-273-8255 Please do not suffer alone; call and talk to someone.
The first step is to make that call to them - there is so much support on this site and we all are here to help. Hugs to you across the miles.
Are you caught in the Polar Vortex, or can you go outside? Exercise is the VERY best antidepressant there is.
Are you more hopeless or more irritated? They are both symptoms of caregiving. Do you have any support from friends or family? If you want it, there are lots of friends here.