I work full time and have 3 children and I've been forced to take care of my 92 year old grandmother who is bedridden. It's too much for me. This is not my responsibility. My mom is retired and has an extra bedroom. This is so unfair. Do I have to file something with an attorney or the state to make them take her?
You're a trooper to have done this for your grandmother, but she needs a higher level of care. And you need to devote yourself to your children and your job. You're not failing your grandmother; you are helping her to find a better place for her.
I work 9-5 and have a nanny during the day but she has her hands full with the kids.
The hospice people come only once a week and I've recently hurt my back trying to get my gramma onto the portable potty chair. I'm just overwhelmed.
The rehab said that I HAD to take her home or they would report me for abandonment even though I'm just her granddaughter! Her 3 grown children are all retired and live close by but they are refusing to care for her.
She only gets 800 dollars per month to live on...she can't afford to stay in a home and her children say they can't afford to help pay.
I don't want to abandon her but my marriage, children, and career are suffering!
I'm so sorry hear what you are going through. You have a heart of gold for trying to do as much as you have. Its not right that her three children have abandoned her. And its not right for you to carry all the burden and responsibility of her care either.
Please talk to a social worker. There has to be options. There are resources in the community but sometimes its hard to know where to start. Try calling the town office and see if they can point you in the right direction.
Thinking of you.