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She just feels like sleeping but after long mornings she gradually gets better. 90 years old. waiting for doctor to call. her bp and oxygen is "normal".
Wait until you are 90 and see whether you want someone to ' force' you out of bed.
I once had a 93 year old psychiatric patient who was only old, otherwise th eprfect gentleman.
I found a mean-spirited nursing assistant dragging him out of bed. I gave him a piece of my mind and ordered him to leave the old gentleman alone, and told him that if he wanted to stay in bed and miss breakfast he was free to make up his own mind.
On the other hand, if your Mum has to go to work, then by all means tip her out of bed and make her get dressed and go out the door to her employment.
Otherwise, leave her alone.
I expect that when I reach 90 I may want to see more of my bed than I do at present. But then,. I'm only 80.
My wife, 78, needs a lot more sleep than me and I make sure she gets what she needs.
That is part of my gift of love to her. I tell her she i not in the army, so ignore the bugler. Even our dogs are quiet when she is in bed.
This is what works for me. When I see Mom in her bedroom all day either napping or watching TV, I go in there with my little chihuahua (they both LOVE each other) and keep her company, or get her tea, and maybe watch a few game shows with her. I also make her feel needed. "Will you come sit outside with me? I'm feeling a bit anxious and don't want to be alone." Mothers will always want to help if they feel needed. Let her know she is still needed. It makes a world of a difference.
My grandmother started doing that (sleeping long hours). She would sometimes stay in bed all day. Then days she would get up and only take a nap. Just check on her from time to time and make sure she is okay and if she needs anything. If this is not normal for her, then maybe her thyroid could be out of whack. Ask the doctor. Good luck.
Let her sleep. She's earned her rest. Don't make a mountain out of a molehill. Besides, her sleeping gives YOU time to unwind and have time out for yourself. Enjoy it and let mom enjoy sleeping. :)
If this is normal for her, or just a gradual increase in her sleeping over time, then let her be. You've checked there's nothing wrong, and it's not unusual for very elderly people not to be full of get up and go in the mornings (neither am I and I'm only 50!).
But even if it is a sudden and marked change, which might warrant more concern, you've already done the right thing in calling for advice. Hope all turns out to be well, please update.
We don't know what it feels like to be 90 ,At that age let her do what she wants .She doesn,t need someone telling her when to sleep and when not to sleep especially near the end of life .
Good heavens, she is 90, let her sleep if she wants, as long as she eventually gets out of bed. She's had a very long life, she tired.
Both my parents are in their 90's, they don't sleep late, in fact they are early birds, Mom has breakfast going by 6 a.m. every single day [they still live on their own]... but they do take a lot of long naps during the day as both take blood pressure pills which can zap the energy out of anyone.
I'm with Judith. Let her sleep. Invite her to get out of bed every few hours, but don't force her. Let her body do whatever is natural for her now. "Dreamland" is not necessarily a bad place to be.
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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force' you out of bed.
I once had a 93 year old psychiatric patient who was only old, otherwise th eprfect gentleman.
I found a mean-spirited nursing assistant dragging him out of bed. I gave him a piece of my mind and ordered him to leave the old gentleman alone, and told him that if he wanted to stay in bed and miss breakfast he was free to make up his own mind.
On the other hand, if your Mum has to go to work, then by all means tip her out of bed and make her get dressed and go out the door to her employment.
Otherwise, leave her alone.
I expect that when I reach 90 I may want to see more of my bed than I do at present. But then,. I'm only 80.
My wife, 78, needs a lot more sleep than me and I make sure she gets what she needs.
That is part of my gift of love to her. I tell her she i not in the army, so ignore the bugler. Even our dogs are quiet when she is in bed.
Good luck, and relax. :)
But even if it is a sudden and marked change, which might warrant more concern, you've already done the right thing in calling for advice. Hope all turns out to be well, please update.
Both my parents are in their 90's, they don't sleep late, in fact they are early birds, Mom has breakfast going by 6 a.m. every single day [they still live on their own]... but they do take a lot of long naps during the day as both take blood pressure pills which can zap the energy out of anyone.
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