My 87 year old mother is a live in caretaker of my disabled 97 year old aunt. My Mom has medical power of attorney and statutory power of attorney over her sister. I have secondary poa. My Mom lives at my aunts house but is ill and no longer able to lift her sister. My Aunt is in denial about her declining mobility and ability to live at home without assistance. Her doctor is recommending the nursing home and signing paperwork but the physical act of getting her to go is the problem. Any suggestions?
This might be a Win-Win for both of them and maybe even you, if your Mom is comfortable and gets help herself she may decide to stay which would take a care-giving role from your shoulders.
If that is not necessary your Mom could move out after her sister passes.
My thanks for all the suggestions. Hope I can pay it forward.
I'm so sorry to hear what is happening. What an amazing mother you have to been so loyal and devoted to her sister's care. I know change is hard. I think your 97 year old aunt must be so scared. Are you able to have independent third party talk to her? Maybe a social worker, family therapist, family doctor or counselor could help her with the transition. Hopefully they can allay her fears and help her cope with this change of care.
If you don't mind humouring me: does your mother agree that your aunt needs to be placed in the Nursing Home? I am getting a vibe that you think she does but... just short of saying so. Especially to your aunt.
Whose house is it, by the way?
I really just wanted advice on how to emotionally prepare my Aunt.
Thank you country mouse for your concern.
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