hi I started yesturday with this lovely 94 year old who has a care in the morning and evenng , I suposse to go in at lunchtime and serve her lunch and just be there for her for two hours . well had a text last night saying the lady does need me , but the other care help and me know differently , how do I get her to trust me I know its only been a day, and what happens if does not want me to do to anything for those two hours ? she has a cleaner , did some ironing yesturday . How do I get her to reliase she needs me and for her to be happy with me .
Small steps and keep trying. It is very hard to accept help and relinquish control. Even though you are there to help, she likely sees it as an invasion of privacy. My mom did and refused every caregiver or outside help. We gave up but I hope you won't.