She suffers from depression, congestive heart failure and diabetes. She fell a number of times in the past, the last time resulting in a 2 months long stay at the hospital. My dad died 8 years ago and she retired from work due to health reasons about 3 years ago - her health deteriorated drastically afterwards. I tried talking to her, I tried leaving her to her own devices, I tried being angry, I tried everything I could think of. If she's happy not leaving her room ever again, I'm fine with that, but I would like her to be able to walk if she needs to. I worry that one day she will sit or lie down in her bed and she won't be able to get back up. Her legs "leak" and I think it has to do with her lack of movement, but nothing I say or do help.
Wishing you strength, courage and happiness,
Deanna
One thing you can look into is visiting doctors programs...they are getting more common. Mom has one doc that visits her home and, of course, there are visiting nurses. It is imperative that your Mom keep moving. I told my Mom that if she did not exercise, her muscles will atrophy and she will end up being bed ridden. That seemed to make sense to her and now she looks forward to exercising - but she still does not like leaving her home.
Can you have physical therapists visit? I even think more social contact with anyone may help. I know that she is depressed, but until you find something that motivates her, I fear for the worse.
good luck...tell us if any of these things work for you.
Lilli
Others are right, get as much support as you can, anyone she trusts, or medical personnel who can come to the house and be of assistance.
I hope you are able to resolve this safely.