My Dad has dementia and moved into Assisted living facility about 3 months ago. At first he particpated in activities. Now he refuses all activities except happy hour where they have music. He is more interested in sleeping or watching tv during day.
Also have noted he is not showering and shaving every day as he once was. Residence is trying to get him to activities. Approach to get him to participate more and also bath/shave. Residence is going to start to remind him
Doesn't wear his hearing aids which we are also working on. Any suggestions about that are also appreciated.
Maybe I am expecting too much.
When I am 92, if I live that long, I hope people let me be me. Most likely that will be sitting in my room, reading, watching t.v. and napping.
When she was in an Independent Living facility, she would go to an activity if there was a resident she knew and like who was also going. For mom, it was ( and always has been ) about individual relationships with others, not the activities themselves that were the draw.
People are who they are, and tend to become more so as they age.
My sister in law frequently frets over mom's lack of participation. My brother and I point out to her that SHE likes to participate, but that it's never been mom's MO.
I hope you find a way to make him more comfortable soon if he's not now. He did give the activities a try so give him some credit. Going to happy hour and listening to music is also good. Does he wear his hearing aids then? Why must he do activities if he doesn't like them? Not everyone does. Is he sleeping well at night? He may be too over medicated to join in. Were his meds adjusted after he was admitted? I guess I'm saying if his personality is way different that may be a clue. If he was comfortable at home watching tv and napping, perhaps the new has worn off and he's found his niche with the music hour.