My mil is alone for the first time in her life ( FIL passes away in December ) she calls my husband ( her son) for every little thing. Finances, real estate , moving, dr appointments, any bills, house repairs,now she needed medication administered iv, and he's having to do that because she doesn't want to pay for it. He's always over her house. I love her and care about her, but I'm getting so resentful . We have three kids, and I've become a single parent. He has two brothers who are happy to sit back and let my husband do everything; and he will because he feels like it's his job. She is getting more and more helpless, because she loves his attention and company . HELP!!
1) notice your absence 2) notice how nice you look, 3) wondering, he becomes glad you still want to have fun with him. He sees on his own.
Except for the extreme circumstances, you are not experiencing anything that most marriages don't go through. It is a lot of work.
When you do get his attention, be sure you will want what you asked for.
Thanks everyone !!!! 😄
You would have not bothered to ask your question if you didn't want a relationship with your husband. Proceed with happiness. You will figure it out!
Loosing a spouse is only next to loosing a child in the grief it causes and 7 months is lot long enough to grieve.
Now MIL may have always been a nasty manipulative old lady and it amuses her narsisistic mind to cause trouble for you in your marriage. That is your call. But get yourself in there and keep an eye on what is going on.
One way to deal with it is for you and the kids to go with him as often as possible and help. Find things they can to do help, or just let them spend time with her keeping her busy. Do they have cousins that they are close to? And that they can talk to about helping Grandma?