how do you get the medical POA?
My mom is currently at rehab with plans to go home, and my father has totally lost it! Something glen beck/bill oreilly-ish...he thinks that any money medicare pays is contributing to the delinqueny of the country...
He is bawlking at the O2 (which she needs) convinces her she doesn't need high blood pressure meds (she's lost her kidneys to uncontrolled HBP) and that she doesn't need a O2 monitor (we've almost lost her to depressed breathing....twice. This last time? she spent time on the respirator)
We need to know the fastest way to take control of her medical decisions. He won't see a civi doc, he goes to the VA, and there is NO WAY to contact them to try and get a mental eval done on dad.
We need to be in charge of the decisions regarding her health care, she will come home to live with her daughters.
If you situation becomes too extreme and your dad continues to deny your Mother proper medical care, you may have to ask your local social services to intervene (I would use them as a last resort, however.) They can evaluate her and set your Dad straight. If your Dad persists he and your Mom may need to be separated until she can get on her feet. Is your Mom capable of standing up to your Dad? Has your Dad always exhibited this bullying behavior? He may need evaluation too.
Wow...this is a new one. Bless you for making the decision to take her into your home. Sounds like this has been going on for awhile.
good luck
Good luck,
Carol