My mother has had a stroke which turned into dementia she lost her husband a couple years prior to that and she is still grieving. My sister was watching her for almost a year but now she is moving to West VA. I have a found a pretty nice place for Dementia residents that just opened this past June. I talked to my mother about she would have to move to an apt. and we would have to sell the house (that she has lived in for over 45 years) Does anyone have any advice on how to break it to her and getting her there without physically forcing her. We are planning on doing a reverse mortgage to get her in there because my sister will be leaving in a couple weeks and then we were going to sell her home and land to use towards her staying at this center. Any advice how to approach. I discussed it with her but she said "stop treating me like I am 2 years old I will leave when I feel like leaving and if I sell this house I will just buy a smaller one"
The information OUT THERE is always confusing.
What you need is a person willing to come, at the time specified, have them be hired and continue showing up. When the house is sold medicare gets theres otherwise their is nothing to do , go to the department of aging, Lutheran Social services until you get answers you need. If you are still living in the house you also have rights as her caregiver...their is a statute in Ilinois if you have taken care of your mother for two years or more, what ever state you are in check out what applies. A little work and walla nothing drastic has to happen unless it needs to happen.