My mother has had a stroke which turned into dementia she lost her husband a couple years prior to that and she is still grieving. My sister was watching her for almost a year but now she is moving to West VA. I have a found a pretty nice place for Dementia residents that just opened this past June. I talked to my mother about she would have to move to an apt. and we would have to sell the house (that she has lived in for over 45 years) Does anyone have any advice on how to break it to her and getting her there without physically forcing her. We are planning on doing a reverse mortgage to get her in there because my sister will be leaving in a couple weeks and then we were going to sell her home and land to use towards her staying at this center. Any advice how to approach. I discussed it with her but she said "stop treating me like I am 2 years old I will leave when I feel like leaving and if I sell this house I will just buy a smaller one"
Does she know your sister is leaving? Ask her what she will do then. Remind her how hard the place is to care for, and how icy the roads get in winter. Do you have POA? You will need that to get the RM and sell her land and house.
Good luck! I don't envy you.