My mom has always been abusive. Although i believe i am the one with the problem because i run to her rescue. my mom was going to lose her home and she begged my husband and i to help by buying her home so she wouldn't simply losing it. We bought her home and te deal was she could get set up in a nice affordable apartment. Well i have 6 half siblings that are from 13 to 25years older than myself due to i was a product of an affair. I do not know them well because i was not raised with them. Whatever my mom has wrong mentally mirrors what tony saprano mother had on the saprano. She lies and has violent outburst and when you walk away in fear of a argument she says you do not love her and she should have aborted me hat i was never born. The problem is i have two beautiful children and i do not want them in this environment as i was. She wont answer her phone and my siblings were calling the police for wellness.checks then senior services got involved. When i asked my mom why this was happening she said she wants money before she will leave in the amount of $10000. I do not have that kind of money and she said who would they believe me or a white haired poor old lady. I feel no one believes me bedside my husband and children because we live it everyday. I know now that she has a very serious mental problem as when i was a child i always felt i did something wrong. I have no one to turn to and i want not only for my little guys and my spouse to be happy and healthy i also want her to be. I want her to get help. My father is passed and i took care f him till he passed and we always had so much fun and loved each other whole heartedly i just am so confused.
Everyone I know with a parent even remotely like this seems to keep hoping beyond all reason that somehow they will give back some of the love that should be there, someday, somehow, and maybe there is something we could do or could have done to make it so. It's a heartache. When you watch other families where people behave normally and care about each other, it gives you a good feeling because it validates that there is another way to live - you can realize it wasn't you, it was them, and you can choose to live a better way; but also a sad feeling because you realize what could have been instead of what you have to live with. You are right to protect your children from it, and it sounds like you are getting the authorities on your side. The only other consideration is filial responsibility law, but the other siblings would be involved in that as well as you, and most states that have these have exceptions for abusive parents. She may become unable to live independently if she isn't already, and asking adult protective or senior services peole in advance about options for supported living and guardianship for her should that occur might also be wise.
You sound like a strong person dealing with a hard problem as well and as honorably as possible.
So ... can you explain a little more about the mechanics of how you came to own the house?
If you paid less than market price, she will not be eligible for Medicaid. She suckered you in with a cheap deal, didn't she? You may need a lawyer to sort this out.