I have conservatorship, she will not go to the doctor- any suggestions other than picking her up and carrying her to the car? She has dementia and believes she is fine- she is far from fine. I have arranged for her to be cared for during the day- I am currently looking for a place near me to place her- she hasn't been paying her bills, allowed the home and yard to deteriorate- won't shower- treats the care workers as enemies- one is my oldest daughter. She's been downright mean to all of us.
When she was just barely sick (UTI and a cough), I told her that if she WON'T go, I'll get sick, too, and then we'll have nobody to care for US. That worked THIS TIME. It's also true. When Mom got pneumonia, I got the lung infection from being in the same home.
This is my plan. Very soon. Good Luck!
PS: declining mind can cause them to say very cruel things they normally never would have. It's not them TRYING to be difficult. It is their inner frustration. Body language is key in communicating that you are HAPPY helps. They can read body language at any level of the disease. Even if they forget who you are!
Regardless of how you get her there, I'd prepare a list of your observations about her behavior and symptoms, so he can have a good idea of what you are dealing with and know how to approach her.