I have four and if they would only visit one long weekend a year i would get a break. I have given up my condo and job to care for my elderly parents in our family home. I recently asked my out of state siblings to come out one weekend a year so i could get a break from the 24/7 every few months. The reception was chilly, with only one coming once a year for a week and another who would like to come, but never has the funds, it costs me a fortune, and she is disabled and emotionally unstable herself. When a sibling who is more concerned with her inheritance than my parents care and has not spent more than a fe hours with them in many years asked how I was doing, i let her know ow hard it was, how our parents needed her company as well and how much I needed the occasional break, The email went unanswered. I am at my wits end, and getting very resentful towards my siblings.
If I had a sibling who was capable and willing to care for my mom in house, I'd be grateful, but still dubious about my ability to show up and help. I'd be more willing to pay for respite care throughout the year, or since you mention that your parents have funds, I would be amenable to my sibling being paid from those funds and respite paid for as well. Try approaching from that angle. Could that work for everyone?
What has the history of the relationship between your siblings and ya'lls parents been like over the years plus with each other.
It sounds like you really can't expect much from the sibling who never has the funds but is disabled and emotionally unstable herself. Sounds like she has her hands full just taking care of herself.
I don't know what to say about your other four siblings and sorry to hear about the one who never answered your e-mail.
Along with depression what other health needs do your parents have?
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